Many years ago when my son came to the age of needing to shave he asked me to show him how. He is a grown man now and in no need of further instructions, and yet I am offering him an update on my original advice. I’m now 73 years old and have been learning that shaving is more than cutting whiskers. Shaving is one of those few moments in a man’s day when he can reflect on his thoughts as his face reflects in the mirror. For me, it has become a time of reflection of what my life looks like, inside and out. What has happened outside of me because of what was inside of me as well as the reverse: Reliving regretful experiences and harvesting lessons from them, overhauling habits, seeking wisdom from acts of folly, and most of all developing self-acceptance and gratefulness. It isn’t easy to do in those few minutes in front of the mirror.
Let me start with this; gratefulness. Taking a shower, sitting down on the throne, shaving your face; these are those daily duties we just do and take for granted as well as the access to the facilities to do them. It struck me recently to read about the plight of a man who was denied such simple and basic everyday needs. What initially caught my attention was that he was referred to as an elderly man, but he was two years younger than me. I read the article; he had been held hostage in an American gulag for the “crime” of being at the nation’s Capitol on January 6th of 2021 in a constitutionally legitimate gathering in support of a political issue. This is his account:
“On January 6, 2021 I was arrested and taken first to this place I can only describe as a dungeon. But Websters definition does not do it justice. It says, “A dark cell for prisoners”. That is just a start. Its dark alright. With 2 people in a cell about 5×7 with a commode, no sink, no water, and no toilet paper. If you needed a drink you had to get the guards attention and at his pleasure, he would bring you a 6oz cup of water. If you needed to poop you had to call the guard and ask for toilet paper. The guard would take a roll of toilet paper and depending on the roll size, he would roll off maybe 5 or 6 loops and he would leave. If that wasn’t enough, you had to call him back for more”.
I’ve been able to do what this man has not been allowed to do every single day since he and others have been imprisoned nearly a year ago for absolutely no legitimate reason.Continue reading“Reflections In the Mirror, by Richard T.”