A Prepper’s Wife’s Perspective, by ATL

I am married to a 55-year-old “boy scout.” Over the several years we’ve been together, I’ve learned a lot about how and why to be prepared for disaster. I’ve never questioned his wisdom or strategy in stocking emergency supplies, both the kind you consume and the kind that make being without electricity for days on end possible and maybe even comfortable. Early on in our relationship he explained it to me as equivalent to an insurance policy.

As A Kid

He’s been practicing prepping a long time now. When he was a kid, weekends meant hiking, backpacking, overnight camping in the woods, or all of the above. To my family, being outdoors meant spending an afternoon at the beach. We packed a blanket and towels, a jug of iced tea, sunscreen, and maybe our lunch.

Yet, my mother had prepper tendencies, at least in the food department. Her pantry was always stocked with two or three more of everything we consumed on a regular basis. They were “backups”, as she called them. Even after us kids were grown and out of the house, one was unlikely to go hungry in my mother’s house.

So Much More

There is so much more to being ready for an emergency, however, than having ample food in the house. I learned this firsthand over the last few months when where we live became the target of two hurricanes and an early winter storm that dumped a year’s worth of snow in a single weekend.


We were not included in a mandatory evacuation, so “shelter in place” or “bug-in” was our strategy. Because my husband views being prepared as a way of life, we were far more along in getting ready for the storms than many people I know (or those described on the evening news). By the time the hurricanes made landfall they were less severe in our county than predicted; however, our neighborhood did lose power.

Prepper Spouses Relatively New To (or May Doubt) This Way of Living

There’s a huge difference, in my mind, between talking about what to do in case of TEOTWAWKI and being well-prepared for a major weather event about to bear down on you. Here’s what I have learned from my recent real-world experiences that may be helpful to other prepper spouses who, like me, are relatively new to (or may doubt) this way of living.

New-To-Me Experiences

During these storms there were some new-to-me experiences. I’ll summarize these below:

Power Outages Mean No Tap Water

Power outages mean no tap water; that’s limited flushing. Water in our house is supplied by a well on our property. The gadget that pumps that water up from the well and into the pressure tanks in our crawl space relies upon electricity.

Flashlights Are Worn

Flashlights are meant to be worn. I have a mighty powerful flashlight that is just about three inches long and one inch in diameter. I carry it in my purse all the time, and it has come in handy a time or two or three. But on the day the first hurricane was forecast to arrive, I clipped it to the waistband on my pants. It is small and light, so I hardly noticed it was there. If/when I did need it, I wanted it to be easy to find. There’s be no fumbling in the dark for me. My husband also broke out the wearable headlamps, which are very convenient when you need light but don’t have a spare hand.

Command Station

Setting up a command station. I cleared the top of a cabinet in our foyer of its decorative accents for this purpose. Here is where I put the battery-powered cell phone chargers, LED camping lanterns, flashlights, radio, and the extra batteries. I posted emergency phone numbers above. My rubber boots and rain jacket were nearby. Anything important to the cause that wasn’t an everyday object was gathered in this spot in the days leading up to the storm.

Prepper Practices I Am Grateful For

There are some prepper practices for which I am grateful, having gone through these storms.

Extra Batteries

We always have a number of extra batteries. We keep a variety of sizes too.

Emergency Alert Radio

A battery-powered Emergency Alert Radio. In a recent post-storm news report, a woman interviewed described herself as a news junkie and said that what she missed most while the power was out was listening to the news. I’ve often thought about that while I’m watching or listening to the news during an event. I’ve wondered if the people actually in the path of disaster have a way to stay in touch if only to be on the receiving end of an emergency warning. Relying on our mobile devices is a temporary solution at best.

One- to Five-Gallon Jugs

Multiple one- to five-gallon jugs, which I filled with water to supplement our usual supply of bottled water, are valuable. Anything larger than five gallons is too heavy for me to handle once full.

A Filled Bathtub With An Effective Drain Stopper

At least one bathtub with an effective drain stopper is quite useful. Filling the bathtub with water in advance of a storm provides a more convenient way to continue flushing our toilets during a power outage. I set an old water pitcher near the tub to facilitate refilling the toilet tank as needed. We also filled a 55-gallon container before the storm, but as it sits outside, the bathtub water was used during inclement weather.

Backyard Glamping Gas Grill

Well, we didn’t sleep outside, but we appreciate our glamping equipment when I needed to cook outside on our gas grill. I was especially grateful for its side burner, which made easy work of boiling water for my morning coffee (brewed via French press) and heating ready-made foods. Of course, we have a Coleman stove, but I didn’t need to get it out. In the aftermath of the hurricanes, the weather was favorable for being outdoors with temperatures of about 55 degrees F. Actually, it was a welcome relief from a hot, humid summer.


A modest-sized generator (3500 watts) with which we were able to keep our kitchen refrigerator/freezer and extra stand-up freezer operational was much appreciated. We turned the generator on after 24 hours when the temperature in the freezer was approaching 28 degrees. (According to our state’s Cooperative Extension Service, most food-borne pathogens can grow rapidly in food kept in temperatures of 41 degrees or more.) The generator saved us from the mess of cleaning up spoiled food and the expense of replacing it.

Extra-long and heavy-duty extension cords ran from the generator to a surge protector into which we plugged each appliance and a floor lamp. We ran the generator for four to six hours in the morning and again at night, not continuously. This was enough to keep our food cold. During a few off hours, my husband hooked the television to the generator so he could watch his favorite football team. That was the only luxury we afforded ourselves with the generator.

Lessons Learned

In our storm experiences, there were seven lessons I learned. They are:

  1. It’s never too early to start preparations. The time to examine what you have and what you may need is as soon as you learn of probable impending disaster. Don’t assume that the general population will not act as fast as you do. Get out early (well ahead of any official warnings, if possible) to replenish emergency supplies. I will be adding this step to our seasonal home maintenance calendar.
  2. I need to have my own stash of cash. Hubby is the breadwinner, and while I do the lion’s share of grocery shopping and errand-running for us, I use a credit card. I haven’t lost my urban habit to carry a minimal amount of cash (lest I be victim of a purse snatch or pickpocketing; both of which did happen to me when I lived in cities). However, I no longer live in a city, so I need to keep cash on hand in case of an emergency.
  3. Wearing pants with pockets is very practical. From a fashion standpoint, I prefer pants without (functional) pockets, but fashion is of little concern to me when dealing with an emergency. (As proof, I have included no cosmetics in my long-term storage.) However, the surest way to keep track of important things like keys, flashlight, and cell phone is pant pockets.
  4. Being prepped for a disaster is yet another good reason to exercise. Weight-bearing exercise to strengthen my muscles and cardio activities to strengthen my heart/lungs and boost my endurance will help me help myself and contribute more to group efforts during an emergency.
  5. Floods are the most common type of natural disaster. This was drilled into me over and over again on news reports and weather programs. Furthermore, we lived it to a minor degree. A few inches of groundwater did seep into a part of our basement. Anticipating that, nothing is stored on the floor that isn’t waterproof, and all our ammo is sealed in ammo cans.
  6. There is such a thing as wind insurance. If you live on a coast and you do not have wind insurance when your home is damaged from wind, like the roof blows off for example, nothing damaged or lost from inside the dwelling is covered. A standard homeowner policy is not enough to cover wind or flood damage. There’s a potentially expensive lesson in being “pennywise and pound foolish.” We do not live in a coastal community; I learned about wind insurance from a friend’s experience.
  7. Stay calm. If/when you feel yourself becoming overwhelmed by circumstance, stop and take a deep breath, or several. Doing so sends a signal from your brain to every cell in your body to slow down. From this place of quiet and calm will come better decision-making.

Three Days Without Power Didn’t Feel Like a Hardship

It is said that luck favors the prepared. My experience bore this out. We lived without power for three days, but at no time did it really feel like a hardship. The weather was favorable, so indoor temperatures were neither too hot nor too cold. We had ample food and water, one another’s company, plenty of reading material, and artificial light thanks to headlamps and lanterns. Plus, we had ample batteries to power these sources of light.

Being Prepared is Well Worth the Investment of Time and Money

So now I know for myself that being prepared is well worth the investment of time and money. I also understand more deeply how to take care of myself and my loved ones during an emergency.

Prepping has enabled me to be calm, cool, and collected before and during an event. No longer am I one of those people frantically scurrying around town in search of gas, bottled water, batteries, and non-perishable foods the days before something is predicted to happen. Now, I am prepper proud.

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  1. Thankyou for your story. It’s taken me a bit of prodding to get my spouse on board. I am the one with all the “back-ups”, first aid kits in every building along with extinguishers, always filling the gas cans that he empties into his tractor/atv/etc. Every trip to the grocery store entails refilling 5 gallon and 1 gallon containers (our well water sucks even though we have a filtration system). Now we’ve got wood stacked, canning done, 1 large and 2 small generators (came with an old camp trailer we bought). Hopefully it will all never be needed but you never know. Better to be prepared than scurrying around when everyone else is.

    1. Thank you, Roger. I love and respect my husband (I chose a very smart, loving man), so I pushed any doubts about prepping out of my mind from the beginning. This recent experience though really helped me understand the ‘how to” and wisdom of it all.

  2. I thank JWR and HJL for providing “Prepper Central” along with many, many hours of entertaining and enlightning reading. Thank you for lessons in everything from firearms to firewood. You guys are awesome and have the gratitude of many thousands of like-minded folks!

  3. Thank you for the comment on exercising and keeping your muscles in a ready state for a catastrophe. Many Survivalist/Preppers overlook this from time to time.

    A huge shout out to you….
    Finally a woman that includes her husband into her Prepping story. I would hate to see some of these women/feminists stand before God someday and give an account — “Well Lord, I fought tooth and nail for gender equality– implementing many corporate lawsuits demanding my equality, marched in pro abortion camps, divorced many times taking half my man’s kingdom, used law enforcement to subdue manhood as when manhood was down… that elevated my womanhood to equality… ”

    You get the point….

    Thank you for being family focused and including your husband! It’s never about gender equality as that is of the Devil–it’s always about family equality whereby the man fights for his bride and the woman fights for her husband. God bless!

      1. ThoDan

        Good to know your writing complete English sentences.

        Many of us men in America go to foreign countries to select wives and import them in. Just so we can be married and have children.

        it Ha nothing to do with manhood not being what it used too in actuality. It has everything to do with manhood not being what it used to in a woman’s feministic

        Does this make sense ?

        In other words manhood didn’t change with a men’s rights movement over the last generation. However womanhood did change through a woman’s rights movement.

        Are we making sense to you foreign people that might. It have a thumbprint in American cutler.

  4. I had to chuckle at your #3 lesson learned. Pockets rule! Why is it that guys can wear the biggest, baggiest clothes, with the crotch of their pants hanging nearly to their knees, and lots of bulging cargo pockets on them, but women are supposed to wear only skin-tight clothing with no bulges allowed, and instead carry handbags to hold their EDC items? To that I say, “Bah, humbug!”

    I’m not saying that clothing has to be gender neutral, but women’s clothing could certainly be made more practical. That includes insanely high heels on women’s shoes (Melania Trump, please take note).

    1. Agreed. I’d like to see someone in the fashion business design cargo pants that actually fit a woman’s body. The tactical brands I have tried never fit right. The best pants I’ve found for carrying some items (not EDC) are ones I purchased from Duluth Trading for the purpose of gardening and doing yard work.

      1. Hi, Anonymous. Why the severe shock reaction and exclamation point? I mentioned her because she’s a public figure that everyone would recognize, that’s all. I used to wear high heels quite often. As I got older, it caused me to get tendinitis in my feet. I don’t wear them anymore. Have you seen some of the stiletto heels Mrs. Trump wears? She and the president don’t often hold hands, and she doesn’t often take his arm when they walk in public. I’m concerned she may severely injure herself by turning her ankle and falling. Of course, the angle isn’t quite as drastic for her, because her feet are longer than mine, but still, these are things to take into consideration as we age. “Practical” starts to take precedence over “fashionable.”

  5. Jefferson Davis
    Please proof read your own comments before criticizing others.

    to the author,
    Awesome article. I have been blessed with a wonderful wife who is completely on board with prepping.
    We are fortunate to have a well with pure, clean water. We have a 4K gallon cistern and a small solar/12v pump that will provide water to the house during an outage. The flow is about a gallon a minute, but it is sufficient.
    We also keep several “Water bobs” to place in the tub, providing several days worth of clean water.
    for flushing, we will dip a bucket in the pool and use the pool water to flush.
    We also installed a 500 gallon propane tank to run the propane generator. This will power the house for almost 30 days, being selective with what we use..
    Keep up the great work!

  6. I am fairly certain we reside in the same state and so I would like to add a few things that I have learned from both of these short term situations. First the hurricane. It was posted to be a Cat. 4 or higher. While we are use to hurricanes, we are not use to 4’s. Living in the interior of the state we normally don’t have too much difficulty but several years ago experienced a cat. 3 and had a lot of eye opening experience with that one. Lucky for us it hit with only a Cat. 1, but the deluge was incredible. I visited the southeast part of the state a couple of weeks ago and those poor people are still dealing with flooding issues. I purchased a small honda generator as well as a kodiac solar generator. While I did not lose power, I realized that I have very little protection for the Honda generator outside. The only shelter is the front door stoop and who wants to have their generator sitting in plan view to be stolen. The solar would have been perfect during the rain but when the battery ran out, there would have been no power available due to lack of sunlight. It is hard to believe you can have that many days with pouring rain. Also, I realized that the screens on my windows did not allow power cords to pass through when using the Honda. The second storm which was snow only left me without power for two hours. All my preps worked including the kerosene heat. There is a situation that I have noticed happening though. I know of three incidents where overhanging shelters and a free standing car port collapsed from the weight of the snow. We are not use to that much snow and as we go into the Grand solar minimum, all of those of us living in the south need to take note. My greatest take away from these two situations is that you need to practice using your preps, and start thinking about what ifs. For instant, what to do if it rains for more than a week without power, or what happens to shelters, roofs etc. if we get several feet of snow, or is your hoop houses able to stand hurricane force winds. Thanks for the tip about wearing the flashlight. I had not thought of that one. Now my tip for those of you who may not have a tub with a dependable stopper. I use my empty storage bins.They hold a lot of water for flushing etc. i am very grateful for this site and the ability to learn from each other.

    1. Sewnurse, I was grateful for this experience if only because it enabled us to practice using our preps. My husband is far more confidence in his survivalist abilities, so for him it was kind of ho hum. Seeing and doing the preps for myself was really good experience. Now, about keeping that generator dry: We placed our generator under a 6-foot folding table and then draped a tarp over the table being careful to leave a path for exhaust to flow out and air to flow in. We popped the screens out of two windows so we could feed the power cords from the generator outside to the appliances inside.

  7. For those interested, there is a switch (named s transfer switch) that can be installed near your main breaker. After it’s installed, you connect your generator an run whatever circuits you want to. They make it very safe to run a generator.

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