Situational Awareness Starts in the Home, by J.G.

Most everyone tends to start life with very low levels of what is called situational or tactical awareness. These words are often mentioned in the same conversations along with the term OPSEC (Operational Security). These same men are wearing MOLLE covered gear talking about fields of fire. They might also include fatal funnels, eyeballs on targets, heads on swivels, and other tactical lingo. However, in case you didn’t know, situational awareness is for everyone.

So where do we begin with this discussion? I’m glad you asked. I believe that tactical awareness, just like kindness, should start in the home.

Mom and Dad’s Roles

My childhood in the 1970s and 80s may be seen as an unusual childhood by today’s standards. But growing up I felt like I had a very normal, stable childhood. I had parents who made a wonderful home life for me and my siblings. My mother was our nurse, teacher, homemaker, financial advisor, and life coach. My father was our PT instructor, outdoor guide, professor, and provider. We were not home-schooled in the current sense of the word, but we were educated at home constantly. There was always a discussion of what we had been taught in public school. Often there was many a correction made to what we had been taught. I guess my parents did this because they believed we were important to the family.

Children Taught the World Was a Dangerous Place

One aspect of my childhood that I believe was unusual for the time period was that we were told at a young age that the world was a dangerous place and that we were to be on guard against its perils. My parents taught us that if we were ever kidnapped that we would fight to the death. This may be partially due to it being the 1970s still heavy with social unrest and the drug fueled crime explosion of the proverbial Age of Aquarius. However, it was just as much to do with the fact that both my parents are very independent and deeply self-reliant people.

Trained To Use Knives and Firearms At Young Ages

My dad taught us what his father, a Marine, had taught him regarding using a Ka-Bar. We were instructed in the basics of vital organs and where to put the pointy end. He even went so far as to demonstrate the vertical strike severing the carotids through the neck when butchering a hog. He gave us the smaller Navy pilot knives that look like mini Ka-Bars to carry fishing and hiking. We were also trained to shoot before age five using a very small squirrel gun; it was a .22 Stevens Favorite. A few years later my dad trained us to shoot a Smith & Wesson Model 10 revolver. He let us shoot a few .357s rounds but mainly trained us on .38 Specials.

We were taught to fish and hike and spent summers in the forests of northern New Mexico, the canyons of Utah, and the pinion covered mountains of Nevada. Every outing was used to prepare us and arm us for life on our own. These activities built confidence, and confidence is needed to act in tactical situations. Even if it only starts out as the confidence to walk down the street and look people in the eye.

Family Team Meetings

We held family meetings every Monday that were about us. At these meetings, we discussed family issues and were informed about situations that were happening regarding our security, potential threats, family moves, church activities, job issues, et cetera. Yes, we were children, and of course our parents didn’t discuss everything with us. Even so, we were a team, a unit, and we relied on God, ourselves, and no one else. These family meetings taught us that we didn’t exist just to play with toys and whine about each other. On the contrary, we were trusted members of the family unit who had responsibilities and were expected to be responsible for them.

Family OPSEC

Operational security was also ingrained in us from a young age. We didn’t betray the trust of the family by discussing family matters with outsiders. Curious people’s questions were answered very politely and equally vaguely. It wasn’t their business. Family business stays within the family.

Scenarios Discussed and Planned

My parents never told me “It won’t ever happen to you.” They always discussed scenarios and outcomes and the consequences of various decisions. We were held responsible for our own actions and disciplined when needed. We were told true, sometimes gruesome, stories of things that had happened in the news so we understood the world, good and bad. I wasn’t protected from the knowledge that predators exist in society. I already knew I was going to fight the abductor and do my best to kill my kidnapper and escape. If offered drugs and other substances, I knew what my answer would be. I didn’t have to decide when it happened, because I had already decided before at the time I thought through the scenario.

There are probably some parents shrinking from the idea that a child would be contemplating these scenarios. I would point out to them that as children, we have enormous amounts of creativity and the same what-if scenarios thought out by the security-minded or law enforcement will not be wasted on the mind of a child. The same child that can turn a pair of pants hanging on the door into a monster can easily visualize themselves engaging in their own defense.

Observation Skills Training

The easiest way to teach observation skills to children is to spend time in nature, even if it’s only at your city park. In the forest with my father and mother, there were so many things to observe, so many little details that would be pointed out to us on our fishing and hiking trips. This trained me as a child to look up, to scan the sky, and to scan my surroundings. I then had as my reward all the things I got to see that I in turn reported to an interested parent. These habits that were created in youth will last a lifetime. (Later, when I worked in law enforcement, I was only augmenting, re-purposing, and fine tuning the skills I had already learned.)

Social Training Through Observation of Parents

In my childhood I watched over and over how my parents dealt with social situations. I observed their dealings with people and how they defused and deescalated confrontations. They were polite, gracious, kind, and also at times, absolutely immovable in their strength of mind and force of will. My father would immediately check and call those out who overstepped their bounds, and not in visible anger, just resolutely. He wouldn’t be “pushed” by another male, and so they didn’t. I knew he had fought many times growing up in a rough mining town, but he no longer needed to, such is his presence. My mother, a kind and loving yet very practical woman, lead by example and also wasn’t hesitant to stand up for the underdog. Mother was very keen in the field of consumer education/advocacy and could spot snake oil a mile away.

The experiences of my parents’ lives made them excellent teachers, when it came to avoiding scams, con men, and the like, and they did educate us very well in this area. That said, they were very generous and helped those in actual need using Jesus Christ as their example. As a child I could observe these behaviors and the independent strength of self awareness that became tools for me later on in life when I arrested and interviewed the criminal element who so easily employ deception, distraction, and manipulation. The mind is a weapon, and a strong mind is a good defense.

Situational Awareness “Vaccinates” A Child Against Being a Victim

It is in the environment of the home that we can learn so much in our early years that it becomes an essential part of who we are. Proverbs 22:6 wasn’t wrong where it states “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”. This is why if you have your child incorporate being tactically aware of where they are, who they are with, who else is around, and what is happening around them, then this mindset will just become the way they move through their day.

The situational awareness mindset isn’t a mistrust of everyone and everything, although it may seem like that to some. It is actually the requirement that people prove they are trustworthy and the understanding that situations are not always what they seem. It’s the vaccination to help prevent being a victim, mark, “sucker”, or dead.

Childhood Is Preparation For Who We Become

It only takes parents understanding that childhood is the time when we prepare to become who we will be. It is certainly true that these skills can be learned later in life, because life will teach them to us, sometimes in not very nice ways. So it becomes a decision that each family will have to make as to when their child should know what the world is really like. I believe that there are many great parents who take amazing care in raising, training, and preparing their children for this uncertain world. I understand the desire for parents to just “let kids have their childhood” and to shelter children from the realities of this life.

However, if you provide your children with the defenses they need, then they will have their childhood, but they won’t be blind to the world around them. What is the alternative? It’s for your child to be the sheep walking along with their face in a smart-phone and their ears blocked with headphones blissfully ignorant of the predator watching from the shadows. You’ve seen these oblivious sheep walking home from school, on the fitness trail, or walking to their car in a dark parking lot. You rolled your eyes and shook your head at the absurdity of it. They didn’t notice you do that, and they also won’t notice the predator in the shadows wearing an evil grin.

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12 Responses to Situational Awareness Starts in the Home, by J.G.

  1. Greg says:

    One of the best pieces I’ve read here in years. This is absolutely key to whether or not our children can survive in this violent world. It pains me to think of how most children in society are sheltered and “mentally disarmed”. Which imo creates victims for the predators they’ll face in their lifetime. Please keep writing!

    • Spotlight says:

      JG-good stuff. I definitely thought we had sheltered our daughter too much as time went by but she still picked up on what we were doing anyway. She related a story to me recently in which she had been incredibly observant of her surroundings-which is pretty unusual for a Millenial. When I commented to that effect she said, “really, you remember I’m a cop’s daughter right?!”

  2. sierra skier says:

    Great post. I too helped to give our son the knowledge of situational awareness and to this day he is blessed by using the information throughout his daily life. Passing along the values of situational awareness is one of the best parts of educating your children you can provide.

  3. GWH says:

    Now this article is some very sound advice. Well worth the reading! Sadly, I see the negative side of this in my own grandkids. Heads stuck in electronics and oblivious to the world around them. I have a rule, come to grandpa’s house you will leave the electronics at home. No exceptions. I fear for their future. Keep up the writing J.G., you have a boatload of common sense.

  4. Anonymous says:

    Very informative. Wish I had seen that when our kids were little. But we did raise them right.
    Church every Sunday. They went astray but now they’re back…the way we trained them. They’re both successful.

  5. German Doctor says:

    Interesting.
    I try to raise my children to be kind, walk in the light of Jesus and yet be strong, self confident and self dependant.
    But is not easy….
    God bless all parents and families.

  6. Roland says:

    good article for a perfect, dysfunctional, world. If you do it right w/ your kids, great. I did 6yr as paramedic (LAFD)& 17yr LEO (SF Calif.)
    Your hyper-vigilance can back-fire as an early form of PTSD w/your kids. Been there, almost done that. Use common sense approach, and stress self-reliance rather than SHTF 24/7/365 mindset.
    My kids are good w/that as they’ve grown up w/that concept. I’ve slowly converted my adult step-kids & neighbors toward that concept. Long -retired now, I’m very careful how I pass on my skills to my grandkids (and their parents). In a very materialistic 21st century it’s a tough job. My wife & I pass on our faith & values, teach by example.

  7. OLD BOBBERT says:

    I do not recognize the world you say you raised your children in.our 4 were raised in a family environment where we taught them that the world was a precious gift from God, given to us to cherish, to make better, and to hold it safely. We taught them that there are many evil people in the same world we are in, and we were to stand clear of them, and to protect others from them. I took my 3 sons to work with me in rental property ownership and hands on management & maintenance. They earned to work industiously at the very best level they could. My daughter is a clone of her fabulous mom and her terrific husband is a great husband and dad, as are our 3 other sons. we cleaned up run down properties for 20+ years.We improved the world of our tenants. MY kids saw the lessor life all around them. But I believe the proof of the pudding is in the eating. My older son has his name on the patent for the 2 stents in my heart. His younger brother went another way. His name is on the patent for the baby “pampers” plus the “always” P & G feminine care products. My youngest son retired at 42 to buy a small farm in southern Indiana to raise goats for the meat market. And there is not a wimp in the bunch, or a shyster, or an unkind person. I’m not bragging on my efforts. We gave them the best foundation we could. , they did these things after they were on their on.
    We are so very sorry about your children not having been in or even known of that other world. It was, and still is, a world here love and generosity can rule our lies through kindness and brotherly concern.And now my kids kids have an excellent example as to how to live a good life.And 2 of our 4 are now grandparents. Its still getting better.
    old bobbert

  8. Jed says:

    Excellent topic and teaching. True wisdom, Love God and keep his commandments, may our great GOD bless you all!

  9. J.G. says:

    Thank you all for your comments, I appreciate every one. This is my first time to submit an article to Survivalblog, although I have read it for years now. God bless you and stay safe in these interesting times we live in.

  10. rockman says:

    My father was a vet of Pacific island fighting in WWII He has the pictures to prove it of bodies every where My great grandfather was a gun fighter just to stay alive in Oklahoma and taught his five sons to shoot and this was passed on to each generation. My father was in criminal investigations and made alot of enemies so we were raised as expert shots when young and always aware of what was around us at all times They did try to get him at times but never did. It is a dangerous world

  11. Jame says:

    Very efficiently written information. It will be useful to everyone who employess it, including myself. Keep doing what you are doing – can’r wait to read more posts.

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