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1. Everything that modernity has taught us about children is wrong. Children pick up on danger from your emotional state and manner not what you say. Having matter of fact calm discussions about reality is what needs to be done. Never lie to your children, they know that you’re lying and this sows the seeds of latter distrust. There is no such thing as an Age Dependent conversation. This is the type of pop psychology hogwash that has ruined a generation. Children are NOT fragile. they adapt well to every environment on earth and learn fast, we are God’s most clever creation. Children must be taught to prepare well themselves, so that they can take care of themselves, not be served by adults. Never, ever, serve your children, the Holy Bible is clear about this; it’s shameful, sinful, abhorrent. Children need leadership, tasking, and guidance based on fact, not dumbed down conversations. Make them work as part of the family team. This is how you build a tribe together. Leadership, honesty, trust, teamwork. Again, there is no such thing as an age dependent conversation there is only calm competent leadership.

   1. You want to explain to your five year old daughter that she might get raped?

      They should not be wrapped in cotton, but this is not an all or nothing issue.

      1. Ok, you got me but only half way. 5 years is perfect for beginning instruction on what the Holy Bible says about assault and self defense and greater war, and also to discuss the beauty of virginal marriage consummation in surrendering to the man who will be your leader, father of your children, and husband. Pray to the LORD without ceasing for this man, yet unknown. Although vaginal penetration is only one form of many, perhaps a more general discussion about assault and defense before specific types are covered, unless of course you’re a leftist public school. Context matters.

2. Thanks for writing this! My first child is due in a month and this seems helpful for getting ready for him beyond the regular preparing that needs to be done for a new baby.

3. Thanks for writing this! My first child is due in a month and this seems helpful for getting ready for him beyond the regular preparing that needs to be done for a new baby.

4. For sure, and for those of us with handicap children in power wheelchairs the challenges are magnafied intensely. I keep deep cycle batteries charged up and solar panels at the ready, to be able to charge up my boys wheelchair. I also have a spare set of wheelchair batteries ready to go. We will never be bugging out over rough terrain on foot very far as it’s not possible so defensive preperations first (Like fire breaks and all the usual preps recommended here that are approriate to our locale), and leaving is always a last resort but if needed we can evac in the wheelchair van…. walking far with wheelchair bound children in a forest fire (Like Paradise Camp fire only 4 miles from here) would not end well…. like for many elderly in Paradise recently. Be prepared and preparing those who cannot for themselves matters. Plan for a place to go…. talk to people you are related to or know to go to in an emergency.

5. Good article; looking forward to part 2. My grandchildren are ready but I can’t say the same for my grand nieces and nephews. Their parents are wrapped up in other problems and are oblivious to even natural disasters. At Christmas and birthday times I send the older ones camping equipment, age-appropriate outdoor/hunting tools like multitools and walkie talkies. I send the younger ones books or games having to do with the outdoors along with things like a compass, headlamp, emergency whistle and blankets or two person tent or ropes and instructions for knot tying. I use an old Boy Scout book as a guide for level of difficulty and instructions on how to do two or three accomplishments. The kids don’t have the attention span for the whole book at one time.

6. My son was in grade school and started asking “Why?” every time I asked him to do something with a big smile on his face. I would ask him to do his chores, “Why?”. Help his mom carrying in the groceries “Why?”. Time to go to bed “Why?”.

   One day I had had enough and told him, “One of these days I might tell you to move and you are just going to stand there asking ‘Why?” as a tree limb falls on you and kills you.” Son gave me a strange look and never asked, “Why?” again.

7. Good article and good points about discipline.

   Not to bore anyone about the earthquake in Alaska again, but many people around these parts kept saying how frightened their kids were for a week after the event. Kids regulate themselves off their parents, so if you act skittish and frantic, your kids will pick right up on that, and I suspect that was what was happening. We all owe it to our kids to set a good example in stressful situations, both mothers and fathers, so that they know we will do our utmost to keep them secure and safe no matter what.

8. The reality of bugging out with kids is that it is essentially a medivac no matter what condition the kids are in. Their safety and handling will be your primary concern, just as if they were patients. Depending on their size, condition, and mental and physical state, you will probably end up carrying one or more. This has some serious ramifications for YOUR ability to carry a BOB, or other tools. Ever try to draw your CHL pistol while your toddler is on your hip? How about carry her on your back while wearing your pistol?

   You will need to consider their pace and ability when planning all of your evacuation.

   I added two webbing straps to my car kit that I could use to strap my youngest to my back if needed. I tested them with her and it was doable but certainly not comfortable. I wore them crossed, with one of her legs thru each, and she held on to my shoulders. A backpack with leg holes cut in it might work better depending on your child.

   Your bug out lists should include stuff for your kids too. At a minimum, it should include their ‘security blanket’ whether that is a favorite toy or stuffed animal or an actual blanket. Make sure they have a bookbag style backpack of their own. They will feel more part of the group if they have a backpack too. It can have their toy, some juice boxes, and some snacks in it. Since you will carry it at some point it should be VERY lightweight.

   If you think you’ll be bugging out thru a riot torn city in a vehicle, make sure you have head phones (ear defenders) for them, and kid sized safety glasses. If there is a real risk you might have to fire a weapon in your vehicle, you should put yours on too.

   Speaking of lists, I have a card on a lanyard for me, and one for my wife. They have my lists on them, and a small flashlight and mini-multitool. The lists are “5 minutes”and “15 minutes” on one side, and “30 minutes” on the other. The lists are of what important stuff needs to be loaded based on the time available. I plan to work the list until I run out of time. The wife’s list is basically “load up the kids”. This way critical stuff gets loaded first, and I have a stopping point if things are really short time.

   Also, we’ve been working with the kids since they were toddlers on the “time to listen and DO” thing. We have a phrase that means “do what I say without questions, right now” and we review it when we go out to any public event, or into any novel situation. We never use it for anything less than potentially serious events. We’ve used it ONCE at the fair to get them to stay behind hard cover when we came across the local PD doing a felony search and arrest on a fairgoer. Hard core gang banger, and I could think of lots of ways the situation could go wrong, so we faded back and got behind cover until they had him out of there. The phrase is distinctive, but not something that would raise anything but mild puzzlement in anyone who overheard it.

   Lastly, an awful lot of self defense advice or training simply doesn’t work with kids along. Spend the time to think thru any of your reactions and responses from the point of view that you can’t retreat, you’re carrying your most precious asset (who is screaming in your ear and weighs 40 pounds), and you can’t get in a “tactical” stance….

   Kids really do change everything.

   nick

9. For kids who incessantly ask why when told to do a chore, tell them to do it first and then you will answer the question. This works quite well with many children. The ones who actually do want to know why will ask afterwards. The ones for whom it was an avoidance ploy will not.

10. Great tactic,how about getting them to figure it out themselves and explain it to you?

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